To be a man

All this time, you thought that you were the man. You proved that you’re only a confused boy trying to pose as a man. Being a man is not something that can be faked, it needs to be lived, but most of us don’t want to do the work.

First is the issue of responsibility. As a man, you are the only one responsible for everything that you do. No number of excuses, running away, or any other kind of lie will change that. Until you come to understand this and start acting in accordance with it, you’re still a boy.

Second is the issue of doing what needs to be done, instead of what you would like to do. In the real world, things are different. Most times, you need to go through what you don’t like in order to get to what you like.

Third is the issue of principles, and how there can be no real man without them. Principles are the compass every man uses as guidance in life. They help reach a destination you don’t know the way to. They can make things clear when everything is confusing.

A life lived on principles means that you have your own rules to live by, and it also means that you’ll never be compelled to do what everyone else does because you’ll be concerned with doing the right thing. There’s a lot more to being a man, but with these three issues, and you’ll be fine.

Why do you keep doing things that are not good for you? By now, you should be aware of what those things are. What’s keeping you repeating the same mistakes? The lessons life tried to teach you, seem to have been wasted on you.

It’s not too late. You can always change the way you act, but there needs to be a decision to do so. If all you do is talk about doing something, or you think about changing things, there will be no effect in the real world. Act differently, and learn to avoid what is bad for you, and also look for what does you good.

No other person is responsible for how you live your life. So, if you don’t like how life is going, take a look in the mirror, and try to understand what you need. When you know what you need, it becomes easier to see it. It also becomes easier to identify what can help you achieve it, and what is standing in the way of your success.

Stop making things harder for yourself. If you are not able to do something that can help you evolve, at least don’t work against yourself. Your world won’t change only because you want it to. Change needs to happen inside of you first.

No one can do the work for you. So, if you really want to improve your life, you’ll have to work on yourself. Use what you learn to improve that portion of the world that you came in contact with. Before you know it, your life will change for the better.