In the mirror

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Is there any good in there? If you are like most people, the answer is more likely to be no. Well, you are wrong. There is good in there, but you trained yourself not to see it. It was not intentional, but that’s what you did.

So, now, there’s a stranger staring back at you, because what you don’t want to see is present in your reflection. Life is supposed to enrich you as a person, but somehow you managed to become less of who you are in the time you were alive.

This happened mainly because you asked yourself the wrong questions, and your mind provided answers, but they were lies. After all these years you are starting to understand that your whole identity is made up of lies, and it’s slowly breaking you down.

Don’t fret, this is a good thing. It provides you the chance to revisit the parts of you that you hardly remember. You can now start asking good questions. Questions whose answers can make you whole again. You are better than you gave yourself credit until now, but to see it, you’ll need to know yourself.

Be your own friend. When talking to yourself, use words that build you up. The life that you have left is a blank page. It can go in the same way that it did until now, or it can be completely different. It all depends on what you decide to see as important, and what you decide to put value on. In short, it’s all about you.

Why do you have the need to get approval from people, for the things that you do? The only approval you should need is your own. Don’t ignore your merits for what you were able to accomplish. The work you put in must be acknowledged.

So what if other people were not impressed with your accomplishments? In truth, it’s not about them. All that you have done, is important to you, and it should not use value because the results were not received by the world in the way you imagined.

Wake up, kid. You’re going to be waiting for a long time for people to accept and validate you, but it will never happen until you win your acceptance. You need to become clear on who you are, what is important to you, and where you need to go. If you don’t, you’ll always try to please the people around you, to gain their approval, by guessing what they want.

How can you know what they want, if you are not able to find out what you want? Your energy is getting wasted on activities that do you no good. Accepting who you are, and knowing your worth, is something that can take a whole lifetime, but this is not a reason to not do it.

The closer to the truth you get with your evaluation, the easier it is to ignore other people’s opinions. When you do a good job, you’ll know that you did a good job, and no validation will be necessary. Your worth should never be connected to the outside world, but rather to who you are inside.