Fail different

Some days, you just want to be left alone. You don’t want to deal with the world and everything that it has to offer. But life has other plans for you, plans that have nothing to do with what you want. So, you’ll have to set aside your grievances and take care of what is in front of you.

Don’t be fooled into believing that this happens because the world has something against you. There’s hardship in every life. Most pain in your life comes from the fact that you keep fighting the changes in your life. If you refuse to adapt to the changes, you’ve already lost.

All the energy you put into fighting life can be better used in making the best of every situation you find yourself in. Regardless of the way you feel, you’ll have to deal with what is in your life, because if you don’t, it will stay with you forever, and it will become harder to deal with in time.

Now, you are free to do whatever you want. You can even do nothing, but you need to understand that nothing can make you feel a certain way if you don’t allow it.

Why do you feel this disconnected from the world? Is there something you can do about it? If not, why do you waste energy on that? In front of you, there are many things that you can do something about. Put your energy into them, and maybe the way you feel will change.

The reality of what happened, or didn’t happen, is starting to sync in, and it hurts. The pain is slowly entering your mind, while you lie to yourself that you were prepared for this. It is clear that you weren’t. But what can you do now about it? Pitting yourself will not change how things turn out. All it will do is bring more pain.

The outcome was never in your control. You did your part, and then let things follow their course. Unfortunately, they didn’t unfold as expected, but it’s not because you did something wrong. Sometimes you make all the right choices, and things still go wrong.

Other times, the only choices you have are bad, but you still have to choose. Either way, once the deed is done, there is no changing it, and your energy can be of better use than digging a hole in which to cry. There is still a lot of life in front of you, and the life behind you is to be used as a reference to help you make better choices.

Regardless of what you feel inside, you have no other choice than to adapt to what comes into your life.  You are designed to survive, and you do that by adapting to any situation that comes up. It’s not fun when you find yourself in the failing stage of adaptation, but it can’t and it shouldn’t be avoided.

You grow as a human being by learning, and you learn anything new by failing first. The purpose is to not fail always in the same way. Go fail different.