Not worse nor better

Why is it so easy to value the opinions of other people, strangers, but it’s difficult to trust the opinions of the people who care for you? You lie to yourself that strangers are more objective because they are not emotionally connected to the issue, and so they have nothing to gain.

But is it fair to ignore what comes from the people who care for you, the people who stood by you when things were hard?

You live under the impression that the people who are interested in you want to get something for themselves. Though some people will only want to use you and are interested in only what you can do for them, this is not the case for everyone.

For some reason or another some people will resonate with you, and your company is all they want. With these people, you can be yourself. There is no need to act a certain way or do certain things. They like you for who you are.

It might be hard to accept this, especially when you find it hard to like yourself for who you are. Why would they like you then? There must be some other reason. What if there’s not? Maybe they saw some of their craziness reflected in you, and that is what they’re drawn to. Maybe what you see as flaws they see as futures.

Find a way to trust the people that are close to you, the ones that stayed with you when they could have left. Don’t confuse a stranger’s ignorance with objectivity.

The people in your life are important, but not for the reasons you believe. They are important because you can learn something new from each of them. You have been focusing on what people think about you, but what you think about them has a greater impact on yourself, and your life.

There is no way for you to know what people think. Yes, you can make presumptions, and some of them might be accurate, but there’s no way to know for sure. If you think about it, it’s not what they think that bothers you, but rather what you believe they’re thinking about you.

That means that you are creating extra stress in your life, and blame other people for that. This is not doing you any good, and it limits what you are able to experience in life. You can be a lot more and live a lot more if you redirect the energy you’ve been wasting on making up what people think.

You are no worse and no better than the people you’ve decided to make judge of your life. It’s not them that are judging your life, it’s you, and you are doing it because you compare it to an image that never existed.

The plan you followed until now is not working anymore, and it’s not because you didn’t do enough, but rather because you don’t appreciate what you did. And you don’t appreciate your successes because you used the wrong criteria to evaluate them.