Find what works for you

We like to look for recipes for success in the hope that they will be a good fit. Each recipe worked for that specific person, but we tend to believe it universal. This is not to say we shouldn’t learn from what other people do, we can, and we should. It will allow us to not repeat the same mistakes they did, but it does not mean we will do no mistakes.

Doing the best you can in life is connected to finding what works for you in all areas of life. In order to discover what that means it is recommended to try what works, and discard what doesn’t. It is also recommended to add your own tweaks and combine separate solutions to come with your own.

During your lifetime, you will be forced into corners, with no escape in sight. Take your time to calm down and analyze the situation. It is the most valuable thing you can do. There is always a way for you to move out from places like that. It might not always be the way you were looking for, but the alternative is to remain stuck forever.

No matter what people say, life is a process of trial and error. You learn what works only after you have tried it, and you always have to live with the consequences of your actions. The best version of you is the version that chooses to live even when things are confusing. You are the best version of yourself when your mistakes don’t define who you are.

In life come moments when you will be powerless, and no matter how much you want to change things, it’s not possible. It is painful to accept the unchangeable, but it can be healing at the same time.  It can also be a more efficient use of your energy because when you don’t try to change what is out of your control, you can focus on the things that you can change.

To be able to make the difference, you must calm yourself long enough to see things clearly. Once clarity is found, it will be easier to make a decision, and it will be a better decision. We try to find reasons for all that is happening in life, but sometimes there is no reason. Sometimes, bad things just happen, and there’s nothing you or I can do to change that.

What we have the freedom to do is choose what we will focus on starting now. Do we focus on the loss and the pain, or do we focus on what can be built with what we’re left with? This is a question for each of us to answer when the time comes, but I can assure you that if you choose to remain stuck in the pain nothing will ever be the same.

Pain has a way of locking the world outside, even when this does you no good. It turns beautiful memories into wounds that might never heal. The purpose of pain is not for you to hurt forever, but for you to experience it, be purified by it, and let it go. This way, it makes the good moments better. So, when needed, take in the pain, but don’t forget to let it out.