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Why are you afraid to change? Do you really need to change? What are you not at peace with? Until now, you have lived under the impression that you always need to work towards being the person you want to be. What if there’s another way? A way that can do you a lot of good, but at the same time, can prove to be harder than everything you’ve done before.

The person you are looking for has always lived inside of you, but because you were not aware of it, you’ve tried to find it in the outside world. From now on look inside, and do your best to bring into the light who you really are. Whatever you find, is all right. Stop judging yourself and make peace with what you find.

The state of peace you’ve been looking for can’t come from material accomplishments, even if society convinced you this is the only way that can take you there. That peace is inside you. It’s always been there, but it only comes up when you don’t push it away with anything that can distract you.

Trust what you are feeling now, and for the first time in your life, stop trying to control everything. The path ahead will not be easy, but in order to become who you are meant to be, you have no other choice. All those layers of fake must be peeled away one by one until what is left is you. It is hard to do, but with every layer you remove, you’ll be stronger and happier.

You will always be afraid of what is new, and sometimes this clashes with your desire for change. What can you do when that happens?

The first option is to do nothing new, ever. To stay as you are now, and everything that requires you to change. Due to the nature of life, this is impossible. You will always be pushed into situations you would not otherwise have chosen. This is done to force you to grow and become stronger.

The second option is to focus on the change that you require and start doing something about it. This does not mean that it is going to happen instantly, or that it will go according to plan. It only means that if you truly want change, you’ll have to do something.

You might be hoping for a third option, but change without changing is not an option. Change without change is a place where you get trapped, thinking that you are doing something while doing nothing. It’s time for you to accept the facts, and move out of this place.

Being in it for such a long time might tempt you to stay longer, but it’s a lie. If you do nothing different, you’ll stay in this place forever, and sooner or later you’ll start to blame others for your inaction. What you do is irrelevant, as long as it takes you out of this place.

Change starts with your first action, and is kept in motion with every next new action. The final result of the change you initiate might be different from what you expect, but it will help you become a better person. A person who understands that change without change is a fantasy.