Does it hurt?

It hurts? So what? Is there any way that you can change what happened?

You’ve been working on this for a long time. And, yes, you are due a win, but right now it doesn’t matter. You hit the floor again, and there is no one to help you up. Are you going to stay down forever? Because this is the only option left if you want to do nothing.

Your worries might be justified, but they are not helping you. With every failure your frustration grows, and you want to give up everything. This is not who you are. You don’t quit, and you never give up hope. You simply don’t know how.

So, get up. Shake off what you can no longer use, and start moving again. Accept the idea that you can do everything right, and still fail. There is nothing you should blame yourself for right now. You are not one to avoid responsibilities, but this time you are not responsible for this outcome. It just is.

The pain of what happened will stay with you for a while, and that’s fine, but don’t cling to it. Let yourself heal inside and trust that you’ll have another chance. The clock is ticking, and your time is running out, but you did everything that was in your power. You no longer have any say in the final outcome.

All you can do now is to trust that the next chance you’ll get will take you to the finish line. It might not happen, but you need to believe it can.

Let’s break down the problems you’ve been having. Are they real, or just made up? Don’t get mad! This question is not meant to upset you, but rather to help identify where your energy goes. You must admit that this habit of seeing problems everywhere is not good for you.

Part of what happens is not that important, and you need to learn to treat it as such. Not every little thing in your life deserves the same amount of attention because then, what is important might get ignored. Decide on what matters to you, and then, start giving it more attention. Your mind will start to see fewer problems and more solutions.

This is not to say there will be no obstacles in your life, but when you look for solutions, that is more of what you find. If right now all you see are problems, you don’t need to panic. This is a learned behavior. Just as it was learned, it can be unlearned, but it will take time and effort.

Notice the pattern you’ve been using to perceive life and change it, because this one is not working in your favor.

Most of the problems you see are not real, they are only minor annoyances. For you, they might look real, but only because you haven’t asked the right questions. Sort out your priorities and learn to ask better questions, and soon enough, you’ll see fewer problems.